It is just a fragment of your imagination

I just did a post talking about this but not that similar. Hmm honestly. I decided if I am 28 and not married. Then screw the thought of it at all. I don’t think having a husband is everything. I just want kids to raise ^_^ Personally I never had a father figure so when I think of a family I think of me myself and I raising children. My mother did for 11 years and she’s been fine. I guess maybe not having a father around made me believe the idea of not being married isn’t something to be looked down upon. Like you mona, for example, if I was your age I would travel. I would live my life and cancel all the stuff off of my bucket list. If I have come to the conclusion I am not going marry then fine atleast let me live my life the way I’ve dreamed of. I’d make a contribution to society, work for an NGO. And see to it that my sisters get married and have children so I can raise them myself. Or if it was possible adopt muslim kids. Wow am I a child freak

Well, I’m a guy and I think that success means nothing if you don’t have someone to share it with. I can understand a woman’s need to feel independent and all that, but I really don’t understand wanting to go through life alone either. I think some women do it out of sheer stubborness and I think they are missing out. God meant for man and woman to be together and make each other happy.

So important topic,

And so huge problem,

I agree with all what you said except for “I knew girls that got educated, got married and forgot that they are smart enough to be someone and contribute to society in some way.”…No, I think women who choose to stay at home and raise up their kids actually are doing the most important job in the world…
They MAKE people, doctors cure people, teacher teach people, but women who raise up their kids properly do make people, and contribute the most to the society, I mean if you wanna work outside home ok, but if you stay only at home to raise up your kids and care about your family, no one can say you don’t contribute to society, actually no one dare to compare his job with yours, again you MAKE people,
Back to the topic, as a man i should say that no all of us think about unwed females in the same way, but yeah some do, which is so much oppression and wrong,
It’s a so big problem and the number of unwed females increases due to such stupid social judgments, but at the end some people “and men” still think properly, i my self know many cases of females lost any hope in getting married then they got married at late ages “35-45″……
when you see the way many of those girls talk and how they feel, really it’s heart cutting, and the society stresses more on them but the way they look at them, and the questions they ask “why didn’t you get married?”, “when will someone propose to u?” so on, many times when i see such situations and how the girl look or blush in return, i wanna just say “god, please shut up people”,
Anyways, really wish Allah fix things to all people and girls, yes many people think stupidly, but many think properly, and if you are a man or a woman just pray to Allah, he can lead those open minded and smart people to you and lead your proper partner to you, nevertheless age…
Hope Allah make all unwed girl and even guys “who wanna marry” marry soon…

The singer (woman) called Lata Mangeshkar in the following video is almost 80 (75+) years old now. Never married or had NO any external affairs in her life. Her all other sisters’ also famous playback singers in bollywood cinema, and all are married.
She sang more than 40,000 songs in Indian bollywood cinemas.
The said song below (not the dancing actress) was sung by her.
Last year SURPRISINGLY she said, she wanted to be born as a male (boy) if there is an incarnation after her death.
I am thinking till now, what was her opinion about her being a woman, about family life and sexual desires?.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wCeK3pkJj-w

Nice, but you can do better than that small fragment of imagination

It’s not so much that we dont want to get married it’s because there are no potential husbands left!!
We should not just settle for anyone, marriage should be more than just being with some1 simply because society things you should… (especialy in ou arab culture)
im not saying i want the fairytale but i do want someone i can relate to
someone that adds that xtra spark to my life.
im turning 29 this year & ive had my share of grief!!
i gues goin trough failed relationships makes you give up trying
but i will never give up living! i love my life & i enjoy it to the fullest
for me that’s enjoying my job, my family & friends and my nr 1 which is TRAVELLING around the world and be content with what gave us!!!

oops it should be : be content with what ALLAH gave us

Hi. Great post. I’ve thought about this topic often. For most of my life I have seen myself as an independent type, indifferent to those “domestic” ideals of getting married and raising children. I chose medicine as a profession, knowing that it leaves almost no time for family life.

Recently, though, I understand that a happy life requires some element of balance. A career isn’t everything. Similarly, getting married isn’t everything. I think it is very possible to have a career and a family.

Well, i may not be muslim, or arab, but i am what i like to call a World Child, i grew up around the world mostly africa, but still, i believe i did my share of travelling.
But lately, i have been very interested in the Middle Eastern culture, specially the arab world. And when i start reading Mona’s posts, i saw a very interesting way to have an different view of such culture specially since she lives in canada and had been struggling with the issues of different cultures and religion in one society that is multicultural. All this to say, that marriages and careers for women, are very complicated subjects where ever we are. But i do understand that certain the point of many women who say it’s hard to find a good balance between career and family in the western world. But from my person point of view and from what i saw in thru out my travelling, if you find someone, who knows you for who you are and not for what you are, think might work better than most women think. What i mean, is that not everybody is perfect, but that is what marriage is two different individuals, who find similarities, and work on those small differences because at the end, no one is perfect ?! IF you are willing to marry someone, knowing that you love him or her, and know that in your life as a couple , you will have worst problems than” where do we have to go for diner ?” or ” what do you want to do tonight ?” or” how much you are worth education wise and money wise ? “, then i would say that would be the potential other half.

Because you may have the same religion, the same skin colour, the same motherland, if you can not agree that you both have goals in life and work with each to fulfill them, then from my point of view, you will never find anyone.
And you can also find the perfect someone who has all of those characteristics and live happily.
What i mean to say is, i meant a couple of muslims arabs who told me, it is easier to marry inside our culture because it will be easier. Okay, no problem, but don’t complain if you don’t find what you are looking for. But i’m not saying that you should walk around and try to marry who ever makes you feel wonderful, but i just find it sad to see wonderful people like Mona who has a lot to give to have to justify how they see the world, because they are willing to speak out on what they think and believe in.

so People, we are more than 6 billions on this planet, if you are happy alone, okay, if you are looking , no problem, because either way, to have a family no a days, you don’t need to be two, from what i understand and you don’t need to be smart. Happiness comes with what you do, with what you have. Some people in some third world countries, might be happier with 10 kids and no
education, when here some educated people are miserable with PhDs, big everything and live a very lonely life.

Smile we are alive and most of use have access to the Web. So … ?? LOL

Sorry if there are mistakes it was very late when i typed my comment?