I am really bad this. Yes this.
So, I will talk about the past week. It’s not so bad, and now I am enjoying working and teaching. I feel some power and I help others in computers. It feels good because my life is worth something. I am helping others achieve something.
Anyways, you all know I am 31 and alone. I wonder if it has to do with me being bull-headed Arab girl, or I just don’t want to be emotionally attached to anyone anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. Sometimes I wish I had someone by my side, to go home to, to be a good person by him, but at times I don’t think any one wants me because I don’t fit an image of an Arab girl.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I have a lot of time now, and maybe I should go back to these dating sites and find someone serious. So far guys wanna chat and that’s it. They don’t want me and I am just good being on another side of a screen. Maybe it is time to find someone in my area I can actually meet and talk to.
My life is so sad. Time to do something about it.
Oh sad me... ,
Hi Mona,
Last week, I turned 29 years. Maybe I’ll start to get my 30s crisis soon
If there weren’t too much distance or teleportation existed, I’d at least invite you to a café and start discussion about more & less serious topics. Living alone in a rented flat after departure of my sister years ago after graduating isn’t easy at all. & in same time I refused to live in shared flat with collegues as I want to keep my and their intimacy.
So, do you think that your image of a rebillious Arab girl is harming you? I don’t know but think twice. Be as you are, not what people wants you to be. I don’t know whether you decided or not to find your future groom & you feel pressure due to your age. You remind me of my sister working in a retail bank & getting regular proposals from customers or someone from their family at job. Funny & embarassing situation & my sister until now refuses & even starts to getting pissed off. Me too I got recently remarks: time to fund a family & give mum chance to see grandchildren as I have job, house & car… I don’t know but I don’t want to get fooled & God know how I am naive
What to say? Be courageous & do what you think is good for you.
Hi,
I was online searching for something and ran into you. The real real crazy thing is that im also arab. Im actually 32 and sort of understand what your saying. You do seem very cool and sweet, don’t be sad, things will work out. Just be yourself and plus there is nothig wrong with dating sites.
My best friend met his wife in an online chat (aol days), sometime back
take care….
Demitri
Perhaps ask your family to find you someone? Talk to your mum about it.
Yes, very much so, and no offence to your Arab culture, but I think you need to see more than just Arab men. I base this on simply pragmatism: the pool of eligible and appropriate Arab men in London, Ontario, is probably rather small.
Mona just ended up on your blog by chance; very interesting. I notice that like many of us you are learning the hard way the absurdity of life. I strongly recommend reading writings of Albert Camus.
I am an Arab, I ended up on your site through a google search on arabs hate, and u posted something 5 yrs ago abt why u hate being an arab. It is interesting, I moved to canada and then the states on my own, and now in age to start a family, your blog and posts really got me thinking about what is it like for an Arab to have kids in north america. good luck with finding a husbad, i think that you are good person, but somewhat confused. Best
and this is just a general thought about ur blog.. I think you need to get out and see more things. I get so offended by Arab Americans who seem to have this strange idea about Arabs based on their families and what they see in their small suburbian setting… and this is not a unique problem to say, it happens everywhere and anywhere, please travel, meet more arabs, meet more people, i think that’ll open your mind to new ideas, and to new people as well!
if travel is not possible due to work, family ties, etc , then read more. not all arabs are like you are painting on this blog. read some arab intellectual readings, read edward said, joseph massad, read about development in arab thought esp. 19-20 century, it can seriously clear the cloundiness you see while struggling to understand why everything is the way it is..
from a jordanian-palestinian arab!
“It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt.” Mark Twain
Why should I take what other people think? Besides, Samuel Clemens was hardly one to hold his tongue, which incidently, was rather sharp.
I think its time to start by ceasing to wearing your ethnicity on your sleeve. Your feelings really shouldn’t have anything to do with you being Arab. Your identity shouldn’t be defined by your Arab-ness.Its time to just define you, by you, Mona. Once you’ve figured out how to do that, things will naturally fall into place. You just need to free yourself of all of these fabricated social constructs you hold yourself to.