All this talk about religion this week, and reading others opinions, really got me thinking of lots of stuff to talk about today.

Many of you know about Sunnis and Shi’ite, the two main denominations in Islam. Well, as a Palestinian, it is very rare to find a Shi’ite Muslim. It is almost non-existent unless they are originally from Lebanon or Syria. Well, my grandmother was Shi’ite of Lebanese origin but born in Palestine. So that makes my dad half Sunni, half Shi’ite. Which makes me have many Lebanese Shi’ite cousins.

Ask me if I grew up caring about such a thing? The answer is no. To me, Islam is Islam. People just make a big deal about little past events, and give them selves new names with new religious traditions.

Unfortunately, many people make a big deal about denominations. It’s like Catholic and Orthodox Christians. Different customs and beliefs in minor things.

One time I was at an engagement party, and a Palestinian girl that I knew made such a big deal that our Sunni Syrian friend was getting engaged to a Shi’ite Lebanese. She treated it like the girl was committing a sin or something. I didn’t want to argue with her or start a never ending debate. I never tell people that I am 1/4 Shi’ite and it doesn’t bother me or I even care about denominations, because I know people’s reactions towards such a thing.

In the end of the day, I don’t care, and such segregations are the reasons for wars, hatred, and prejudice within a religion.

I wonder how children brought up with parents of different religions turn out? Hmm??

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I know I know! I have not blogged in like 3 days. I am sorry, but you have to understand this, I am lazy. When you are on vacation, you don’t have much to write except that you are taking lots of pictures and enjoying your time.

However, at times when I am not out, I do a lot of internet browsing and checking out lots of things. I do read a lot about religion and culture. You can say it is one of my main interests. I was watching a video the other day about Islam and marriage. I usually don’t watch these videos, but I got many emails from Arab girls to talk more of the problems that the younger generation (us) are going through. Also, to explain how different we are than our parent’s generation and that the gap is becoming bigger all the time.

I disagree, there is no gap because most of the kids end up like their parents. If people are not willing to change, then nothing will change.

So, I was watching this video that I don’t want to point to, but it was a video created by our young generation. It was a bit disturbing to see how people interpret things and will not change their opinion about some things, although life changed so much.

If life changed so much, and we are advancing as a civilization, then why do we still view female and male roles in society like we are in 1520 AD?

I am not against culture or religion. You have to understand that this post has nothing to do with that. I just want to argue the point in the video I saw that made me turn it off. Although it was supposed to be humorous, but I just couldn’t stand listening to it anymore.

The video I saw was of a Muslim female asking if she is too old now (she is over 30), and she should give up looking for Mr. Right. The guy answered her and said, “yes, you are old and to stop looking for Mr. Right, and accept any guy.”

The moment he said that I was like what the hell? Then he continued with his argument saying that a man can be any age, the older the better to get married. He would be well off, and have money and a good career. Also, that a man’s wealth is important for him to get married. Then he said that females should just get married young and stop worrying about career and money, because that is not important. That is the male’s responsibility, and women give birth and take care of a family only.

I was like what the hell!

Is it me or I don’t get it? I don’t understand the world we live in anymore. Some of our parents make us go to school and Universities to get an education, and expect us to work after and support our selves. I thought in Islam that we are supposed to get an education. Even if that education is going as far as China to get it. Yet, others think it is all wrong and pointless ???

Do you see the problem here?

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I am one of those people who do not use Facebook personally. I only use it for this blog, but my real account, with real people I know and relatives, I deactivated. So my involvement with that part of my world is non-existent because I don’t want to bother with them in this stage of my life. However, some news of some people related to me is not something I wanted to hear at all.

My brother said, “You know our so and so cousins in the US are no longer Muslim? They are Christian now and that’s the religion they have on their Facebook.”

I shockingly said, “You are kidden me right?”

My brother said, “I suspect they eat pork now too, and that’s not including the drinking. I think I glimpsed them doing so in a picture on their Facebook albums.”

I said, “Well, we lived with them and know how they were raised. That’s what happens when you are raised wrong and your step-mom is American and didn’t care to convert. Also they don’t know a word of Arabic. But changed their religion? Seriously?”

My brother said, “Yep, can you imagine how the family would feel if they found out, especially Grandma in Beirut?”

I said, “I am not saying anything. It is sad. Very sad and such a shame to the family.”

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One thing that amazes me with married life is the two opposing sides that are forced into the deal. I am serious. Two families are forced into this proposal, and not two people. With us Arabs, and the rest of the middle eastern family oriented countries, you don’t marry to just be with someone you love and procreate. No. No. The entire family is swept into the deal, and their say of the outcome of the entire wedding and married life involves them more then the two lovebirds.

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What amazes me with Arabs though, that the mothers are directly involved like they are the ones getting married. I heard many horrible stories of mother-in-laws to-be canceling weddings, because of their battle with the other mother, or over stupid material things.

Why the fight?

You would think that two people would cancel the wedding because of various differences, but why do mothers have the final say to cancel the two lovebird’s wedding?

I heard a few stories, and the final result was a devastated girl that refuses to love or marry anyone ever again.

One fight I heard of was a wedding that was canceled because the mother of the bride didn’t want her daughter to pay for half the furniture for the new home. So the mom canceled the wedding.

What kind of mom is that? Ruining her daughter’s happiness because of something the bride wanted to do for her future home?

Another story of a bride who was half way through her wedding reception, got off her chair and walked out in front of everyone. The people were dancing, having a kick ass time, and the bride just walked out after arguing with her mother-in-law during the wedding reception! What kind of wedding night is that?

Yesterday afternoon, my Arab Reuters beloved mother told us of a wedding that is planned for today (Saturday), and was almost canceled. Why? The two mothers fought, and the mother of the groom wanted to cancel the wedding. The father of the groom said no because the invitation cards were already distributed, and people from all over are coming, etc. Why did they fight I wonder?

On speaker phone with mother

Mom excitedly said, “Oh my God, so and so almost canceled the wedding that will take place tomorrow.”

I said, “Why?”

Mom said, “I didn’t hear the entire details, but it was the mother of the groom’s fault.”

My brother said, “Who’s wedding is this?”

I told him who it was, and he gave a disgusting look and screamed, “OOOH! HIM and THAT little bitch!” Then my brother whispered, “that drunken bitch who spends her time in night clubs getting wasted with more trash like her and who knows how many guys she slept with, and that little guy who thinks he is all that?”

I said, “AHA! Yah!! Remember them from University? It’s funny that those people get married first! Trash find each other quickly eh? I think they smell each other a mile away!”

Mom on the line heard half the conversation and said, “why, what is wrong with her and him?”

I said, “I told you mom! There are good Arabs, and the tip of the mountain of garbage Arabs. No wonder the wedding was almost canceled.”

Mom said, “But her dad is a doctor, and they are a big family.”

I said, “So what? What does education have to do with being trash?”

My brother jumped in, “Ewwww. I hate those people. I hope they did cancel the wedding.”

I said, “Mom, go ask people you know about the details of the fight. We would like to know.”

My brother said, “Yaaaah. Stupid trash people! Why they didn’t cancel and save humanity from more trash?”

I laughed so loud. Weddings and moms. Classic tales.

However, nothing beats my story of not being wanted by them mothers because of my skin color. Ah, I wonder what God feels like doing to them because of Arab backwards mentality. Oh Oh!! I know what!

I know this one Arabic chick, who got married before she was 20 because the mother of the guy thought she was so pretty, has very light hazel-green eyes, very white, petite and skinny. Guess how the kids ended up looking? Can we say that genetics play a big role in being tan and brown eyed? How about looking more like the dad than the pretty mom?

You guys don’t understand how happy I am being single and not have to deal with married life, as I am witnessing it now with my brother and his wife, and having a little girl. My God! I have zero patience for all that. I am happy being free to do what I like with no responsibilities. I am like a bird flying around doing nothing but looking down at things. It’s more relaxing. Believe me!

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This morning, I received a kick ass new tune from DJ Hecktic or Brian. He always surprises me with the amazing middle eastern beats that he comes up with and dedicates to me. He emailed me this morning and wrote,

… I was watching Persepolis and it made me think of you…great movie..I always love it when she says she wants to be like the last prophet and stuff…totally a rip off of Mona that we all know and love…a true woman leader. What would you do if you did lead the world???

The tune is called Persian Charmer

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