My brother on his Facebook status said,

“1 Dictator dead (Iraq) 2 Dictator in Hiding (Tunis and Egypt). A few more dictators to go and then we can have a big block party in the M.E ”

And I said,

“Block party?? am I invited? We can sing, “Bye Bye Bye” by N Sync! ”

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Isn’t it great to be an Arab now? Raise your hand if you agree!

I dunno people. This surge of pride just hit me. I used to be so devoted into the I am Palestinian who speaks Arabic mentality, but now, being of Arab decent, no matter how small percentage that is, is quite magnificent.

It’s like my dream, what I preached for on my blog for years; Arabs need to come together. I never knew that will ever happen in my life time. A lot of people are skeptical about Egypt, but the events that happened in Tunisia, the scared Jordanian mentality, the upcoming anger of the Syrians, the Yemenis being unstable, and soon that must leave Libyan president, oh my God people. This is history. This is a beautiful time for our culture.

How unstable it will get afterward is something to fear, but always at the end of the dark tunnel is a light of hope.

I just can’t believe that Arabs are uniting, and how? Because of the most important and life changing tool in the world, the internet. Mere communication and sharing thoughts and ideas. Ideas influence change. It’s not wars. It’s not violence. It’s not dehumanizing others. No, but simple words to get the points across.

See what us nerds developed? See why they say, “nerds rule the world?” So simple, so effective, so ingenious!

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That you and I are right. Yes, you the voters!

So, let’s all pray that Arabs all over the world are united together and finally say, “I had enough.”

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Culture, They said what?

Last night, an Arab female emailed me regarding some problems and issues with a guy. Sometimes following the rules and being who you are is not always the best solution. But then again, who is right?

Dear Mona,

I’m an arab girl,, I got into a relationship when i was 18 with a guy who was 5 years older and after 2 and a half years he broke up. Long story short is he cheated on me and I never really got him to admit it but it’s pretty clear and so I guess he got bored or he thought we weren’t very serious or maybe I became extra ‘baggage’ for him because he dumped me in May 2010 before my exams and AFTER i got hit by a car. Now, I am writing to you, to ask, what do I do to get over him…Why do i miss someone who played mind games and basically thought so low of me….How can I move forward…He has another a girlfriend, maybe a different one than the girl he cheated on me for…It was my first love…He promised me a lot, to be together forever, marriage, he said he loved me and appreciated me and I don’t understand why men do that…

ANyways you seem like the best person to help me understand my problem in hopes of moving forward….

I never contacted him since he broke up with me thought he tried for 6 months after…never saying he missed me or wanted to pick things back up again…just that he was sorry and wanted to know how I was..

but knowing xxx…it was probably to make me believe he’s a good person and didnt really , couldnt possibly, have cheated.

My Response

Dear confused Arab girl. Don’t worry, some of us have suffered worse. Try being with a guy for a number of years and then out of anger you leave each other. Then without you knowing it, he got married to a girl from some other country that knows shit about him? I don’t know why guys do that, but then again, girls do that as well. Mostly in our culture. I find Arab girls and guys to be very weak when it comes to commitments and getting to know each other first and love one another before marriage. I never understood why it is hard, but being an Arab girl my self, I think the mentality that love is wrong before marriage is still widely taken into consideration.

At least you only managed an innocent relationship with a guy who said he will “change” for 6 months. Try years! Try wasting years of your life and where does it end up? Yep, you guessed it, not together!

I am sorry to hear that you were in an accident and you were thought of as extra headache cause of it. It was not your fault you were hit by a car. What if you were married and were hit by a car? Too much for him to handle that he will ask for divorce?

Anyways, how to forget? That is a really good question, and I do have an answer. You see, when life keeps going and many things over time occupy your thoughts and days, then forgetting someone you loved or thought you loved is easy. It just takes time, and this time needs to be filled with your own life, not his. He doesn’t care, but why should you? So think about your self, think about your life and thank God you don’t have to deal with him anymore.

You may end up being a bitter old lady like me whose mother is desperate to marry off, or you may end up more mature and make a better choice for the next guy since now you know what you want. You will also notice the right or wrong about the guy right away without thinking too much.

So relax, stop worrying about it, and think about your future, because he didn’t.

Got questions?

If you have any questions or a story to share and want me to comment on or the visitors to comment on, then don’t hesitate to contact me.

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One of the guys that messaged me yesterday on Facebook messaged again today asking why I don’t talk to him much. So I replied back saying I don’t talk much and I didn’t think I was supposed to message him every hour. Also, he told me he was 36, but I saw his profile and it is 10 years younger. I just casually mentioned it and said it might have been a typo and I am here but I am not a very talkative girl.

Therefore, this is the reply I got and I was like WTF is wrong with men!

Doesn’t matter, dear. Don’t get me wrong. It’s about your cold and arrogant attitude at that point in time. I felt it and it didn’t feel very good.

So then you are saying you talked to me like I am an idiot just because you “thought” I was younger than you. Are you the type that judges men by their age?

Usually that type is self sufficient and plus they do bad things themselves, thats why they are that judgmental.

Maybe you are the type that dates black guys (sorry but this I don’t like)…just like you women are prejudiced about age.
Maybe you sleep around with you canadian office people. you know office mentality.
You look like you are single. So maybe there is a good reason for that.

So never mind my age dear.

don’t i have enought life experience for a 36 y.o. lol I have been places and i know people…but I always give them a chance to improve, especially the first impressions.

I would like to get to know you, only if you will have enough patience to let me. Together we can change a few things.

talk to you soon.

And I replied to him saying:

Wow. I love your judgment. By the way, I was talking to you back and forth before I added you and I didn’t even know or care about your age. You mentioned your age, and I saw your profile and it didn’t match. Therefore I mentioned it. If you took offense of it and then judged me to the most extreme sinful disgusting point of anyone’s life then sorry I even mentioned it.

I am sorry I even bothered or replied to you. And thank you for judging me.

-Mona

Dear God! What is wrong with my life! He insults me and still wants to give it a chance. WTF is wrong with ARAB GUYS!! No wonder I am single, because Arab men are F@#$@! UP!

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