I always knew if there were another person like me, it will be chaos on earth. Can you imagine if I had a twin? An identical twin that looks exactly like me? Acts like me? Does the stupidest things like me?

So I hired her to take some pictures of me. She was stubborn as hell, and wanted to be in the pictures as well. So I told her fine! I was gonna pay you in 1920 Canadian currency value, but NOT ANYMORE! NADA, ZIP, NOTHING!

She was so annoying!

Who do you like better? ME or HER!??

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I got another one for you guys, and it is not so pretty! Someone searched my site asking Google the following: “way to treat Arab man so he will love you.”

Oh boy! Someone really screwed themselves over when they came to my site typing that shit. So, you Arab girls or girls in general who think that you have to treat a guy a certain way so he can love you, need to be slapped around. Send me an email and I will send you a ticket to my house so I can slap you silly, and give you a few wise words while I am at it.

Do girls, especially Arab girls, think that they need to treat the Arab man a certain way just so she can receive his love and affection back? She has to earn it? Why the hell can’t he earn it? Or better yet, why can’t there be a mutual compromise on both sides of the relationship?

Am I the only one that thinks logically here?

I know, some of you will say, “But Mona. You are 28.5 years old and still not married. Why should we listen to you?”

My answer is simple, “Listen to me now, or you will END UP LIKE ME and learn it the hard way!”

God! You girls make me mad!

Listen, no good can ever come out of this one sided love. You cannot make a guy change his feelings towards you by doing “something.” I know many Arab girls who fell for this stupidity. There are many Arab girls that I knew that even go all the way to sleeping with the guy just so he can love her back. Now that is stupid, especially when he dumps her ass few days later, or even the next day! Good thing I was never that stupid and had some sense!

Please, my little Arab female friends! Quit thinking that you have to be an object of affection for some guy in order to receive his love. Why can’t you let the guy act like a guy for once, and let him do SOME work? I feel that Arab girls, especially in the past 5 or 6 years, really changed and are effected by their surroundings, and don’t know what “love” is. It is not a fantasy. It is not something you have to earn. It is not something that you have to spend your life time looking for, and then giving up and going to a totally different tangent by selling your self.

Am I making any sense here? Do I have to seriously start slapping girls around so they can come to their senses?

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I had an itch last week that I had enough of this place. I think my brother, his wife and insane but cute daughter really put me on the edge.

I know that extending my vacation for an extra two weeks was a mistake. It cost me money, and sanity. I did it for my bratty sister, and to look for work. However, the economy, people’s attitude, companies that fear hiring people anymore and taking any chances, really is not helping my job search.

So, I gave up looking for work in this amazing city. I rather go back to Ontario, to my home, and to my house, and live in dignity. Yes, I mean it, my dignity.

Things I cannot stand

Sleeping on the couch is not so bad. Don’t get me wrong, I still do hate it with a passion, but it is not because it is a couch. Oh no! The placement of the couch is what annoys me. In reality, according to Arab culture, we are guests. I don’t care if it is my brother’s apartment, but we are guests living off a suitcase. I don’t need to stay awake and trying to sleep at 12:30 am or 1:00 am because the lights are on, the keyboard clicks won’t stop, and sometimes the talking won’t stop.

I understand that we all have the need to chat with our families back home, and the time difference of 10 hours is really annoying, but why do it all day long! Especially late AM!

Then you will ask me, “Mona, it is only 12:30 am or 1:00 am. You got nothing else to do?”

I agree, I got nothing to do. However, I am awaken every single day at 7 or 7:30 am by my niece. Even my sister cannot get much sleep and awaken extremely early by sudden head butting and jumps up and down on her stomach by a 2 year old.

Where’s the mom?

She is asleep till 11 or 11:30 am. If my brother does not come home for lunch, then she is asleep till 12:00 pm or later.

This morning, my sister complained that she suffered from constant hits and not able to sleep cause of my niece. His wife said, “This is her way of saying good bye. So you guys don’t have to remember her. ”

What the hell?

The stomach takes 4 – 5 hours to digest food

Last week, my brother didn’t come home for lunch because he had a lunch meeting. Fine, doesn’t matter. Well, his wife didn’t wake up till like 12:30 pm or was it 1? I cannot remember. Then, she didn’t make any food, and then she asked us if we were hungry or should wait till 5:00 pm till my brother came. I said, “I don’t think you should wait that long.” She said, “ok.”

3:00 pm came. 3:30 came and then she started preparing some food and left. My sister is still a growing teenage girl and I could see her restless, and kept going to the kitchen and back wondering what junk food she can grab to munch on. Then, my brother’s wife came and said, “you guys hungry?”

Then around 5:00 pm when my brother came, the food was done. Ok fine. I could have made anything for my sister to eat, but one thing I was raised to do is not touch anything that is not mine, because not everyone likes someone else touching anything. Also, my sister and I are really quiet and not demanding. So we just wait and not say anything cause we feel it is rude.

Religion is not parts, but a whole!

The one thing that I do not like is people lecturing me on religion. You can be as religious as you want, but you cannot convince me of many things that you cannot apply towards your life. The 5 pillars of Islam are one thing, but living life modestly and respectfully is another.

My brother’s wife does not wear Hijab (head cover) either. However, wearing tight clothes and showing off every part of your body is not COVERING! Why do people don’t get it?

Also, we don’t swear in our house or insult anyone. We are not allowed. I only swear on this blog because it is built up anger, and just thoughts in my head. However, I don’t use foul language or insult. So why does my brother’s wife do, and my brother picked it off of her? I keep telling my brother to friggen stop swearing. Not only that, he starts saying horrible things in the name of God against everyone! I am like what the hell?

His wife also has temper issues and she thinks she is tougher then my brother, and snaps at him all the time. She also has serious anger issues with my niece, and a lot of times does not even watch her. No wonder why the girl is uncontrollable. She rather spend her time on MSN or web camera all day, then bother raising a child! Then with simple things like change her diaper or feed her, she tells my brother to do it because she is busy chatting. She even leaves her diaper unchanged for hours, and does not bother!

And I get blamed if I fed my niece some candy cause she won’t stop crying?

I don’t get it… People, and I know her especially, look down upon me because they think I am the independent person who does not care about “culture” or “religion” as they think because I was the Arab Girl that was raised in North America. I don’t need to show every single religious and cultural tradition every single minute of my life. I have been living in North America since I was 11! I think I adapted by now, and I live life a lot more modestly and respectful then people that came here much older. I don’t want to appear as the odd one out, and think everyone and everything around me is satanic.

I can go on ranting, but there is more ranting soon after I leave this place. This was just part one! There are so many things, and reasons why I hate being here and don’t want to live here anymore.

Living with your parents is a lot better and respectful! I miss my mom and dad!

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I don’t know if I am the only person that noticed this, but maybe I am just unlucky and end up with weirdos questioning me all the time.

So, why do cashiers comment on what I just bought?

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I am serious! Every time I am at the check out, and about to pay, some old woman or punk ass teenager comments on the items that I just purchased.

Who asked them?

One time, long ago, when I used to be on drugs and suffered from severe insomnia, I bought a pack of sleeping pills. Those over the counter ones that have an extra dose of drowsy goodness. Oh the good old days! Anyways, I was at the cashier wanting to pay, and this middle aged woman looked at the box, and started lecturing me.

I am not joking!

She told me that those are not good for me, and maybe they won’t work, blah blah. Then all of a sudden, she changed her mind and said, “well, my daughter just left to University, and I have hard time sleeping as well. Maybe it might help me.”

Can we say, moody?

So, yesterday, we went to a boat tour on the lake. Before then, we decided to grab some munchies from the drug store near by, and save some cash from ridiculous on boat prices. So, I had a chocolate craving, and bought a couple of boxes of Maltesers for everyone. (Those are addictive!)

I went to the cashier to pay. The cashier was a punk ass teenage tiny girl. She looked at the boxes, and swiped them, then said in a very sarcastic tone, “Chocolate craving eh?”

In my head, I automatically said one thing, “Bitch!”

I didn’t reply to her and just gave an unsatisfied smirk, paid and left. At least I am not a drug addict at age 16 with bad attitude!

Have you ever had an experience like this with cashier’s un-welcomed or unnecessary comments?

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I know I know! I have not blogged in like 3 days. I am sorry, but you have to understand this, I am lazy. When you are on vacation, you don’t have much to write except that you are taking lots of pictures and enjoying your time.

However, at times when I am not out, I do a lot of internet browsing and checking out lots of things. I do read a lot about religion and culture. You can say it is one of my main interests. I was watching a video the other day about Islam and marriage. I usually don’t watch these videos, but I got many emails from Arab girls to talk more of the problems that the younger generation (us) are going through. Also, to explain how different we are than our parent’s generation and that the gap is becoming bigger all the time.

I disagree, there is no gap because most of the kids end up like their parents. If people are not willing to change, then nothing will change.

So, I was watching this video that I don’t want to point to, but it was a video created by our young generation. It was a bit disturbing to see how people interpret things and will not change their opinion about some things, although life changed so much.

If life changed so much, and we are advancing as a civilization, then why do we still view female and male roles in society like we are in 1520 AD?

I am not against culture or religion. You have to understand that this post has nothing to do with that. I just want to argue the point in the video I saw that made me turn it off. Although it was supposed to be humorous, but I just couldn’t stand listening to it anymore.

The video I saw was of a Muslim female asking if she is too old now (she is over 30), and she should give up looking for Mr. Right. The guy answered her and said, “yes, you are old and to stop looking for Mr. Right, and accept any guy.”

The moment he said that I was like what the hell? Then he continued with his argument saying that a man can be any age, the older the better to get married. He would be well off, and have money and a good career. Also, that a man’s wealth is important for him to get married. Then he said that females should just get married young and stop worrying about career and money, because that is not important. That is the male’s responsibility, and women give birth and take care of a family only.

I was like what the hell!

Is it me or I don’t get it? I don’t understand the world we live in anymore. Some of our parents make us go to school and Universities to get an education, and expect us to work after and support our selves. I thought in Islam that we are supposed to get an education. Even if that education is going as far as China to get it. Yet, others think it is all wrong and pointless ???

Do you see the problem here?

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