A visitor wrote:
“Just had my annual look at your blog. (Not really annual, but it’s a rare visit.) It’s strange… your blog is repetitive, you’re usually unhappy, and yet somehow you’re very likable. Maybe it’s because you’re spirited and honest. I can’t tell if you’re doing something wrong in life, or if you’re just experiencing a “normal” level of dissatisfaction, and you’re just unusually frank in expressing it.
I have been thinking whether I have any “advice” for you. You know, something to say that could be constructively useful. For jobs, I have no clue. I sometimes also visit the blog of ——, another woman in IT, and she just moved to Sweden and loves it, so maybe that’s the answer? And for relationships, well, I have an outrageous suggestion: Become a dominatrix. Yes, I know it’s completely against your values, and if you actually did it, maybe it would just introduce a whole new type of catastrophe to your life; but… I think you need some lateral thinking in that department. You’re holding out for true love and a soulmate in a culture dominated by online hookups. You might end up happier if you resigned yourself to “serial monogamy” like most other women on Earth.
Or, you could just stubbornly remain fixed in your identity and grow old as an I.T. spinster. That’s what freedom to choose means – even the freedom to make the bad choice and stick with it! Because at least it would be *your* choice; an aspect of your life that you and only you had the chance to decide.
Well, that’s the end of this year’s attempt to be wise. <3″
Umm…. where do I even begin to answer this? How would you answer it?